If you said yes, you are not alone!
For years, I wanted to blame others for my hurt feelings. I wanted others to be accountable for having the audacity to hurt my feelings. I couldn’t understand why no one cared enough to stop harming me. Why is it so painful when our buttons are pushed, and as a result, our feelings are wounded? Most of us, myself included, want to fight back. We want our offender to hurt as much as we do. How is that working for you? I know for myself, it wasn’t! I was miserable, and so were the people around me.
Thankfully, somewhere along the way, I realized that I am the only person responsible for my feelings. I know! How can that be? I was shocked with how quickly my life changed. The changes around me were astronomical. My relationships with everyone improved, and they didn’t do anything to change! The changes were all me!!!! I had no idea how toxic I was. I had no idea how my hurt feelings held me back from obtaining and maintaining healthy intimate relationships.
So, what happened? I started growing my emotional vocabulary, I became intimate with myself and my vulnerability, therapeutically processed my emotional damage, recognized how emotionally stunted I was, and STOPPED blaming others. For those of you who are wondering, yes, it took years to accomplish this, and this process was and is life-changing. I highly recommend it! Ready to get started?
What I have learned over the past several years is that I am only responsible for what I say, not how someone perceives my words. I am only responsible for my feelings, not yours! How can you be held responsible for my feelings, as they are my feelings, not yours? Admitting I was accountable for my feelings and actions was brutal. Now, on the flip side, I am not responsible for your feelings either.
Allow me to clarify; I am not talking about intentionally setting out to harm someone. I am referring to those moments when we unintentionally push someone’s buttons, and it happens to all of us daily! We can be at the grocery store, in our car (you know that lovely road rage thing), talking to a colleague, or on social media. Regardless, of when, where, or how, our feelings get hurt.
Just like me, you have a choice! You can continue harming yourself and relationships by blaming others, OR you can learn how to take responsibility for your emotions. Are you tired of being alone or isolated? Do you want more friends? The game changer, do you want better relationships with your family members? Do you want to stop the madness when someone rubs you wrong?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time to come see me. Consequently, I want to help you! Please don’t hesitate, call now! Take control of yourself and change your life. I can’t wait to meet you.